The Calmness of the Season

by Brandi Lytle
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Some may think I’m nuts to describe the holiday season as calm.  But I believe one of the bright sides of a childless Christmas is that we can choose how hectic we want life to get.  Because we do not have two-legged kid commitments, toys to search for, elves to deal with, and Santa to visit, we can fill our schedule (to the brim or just a little) with holiday traditions that bring us peace and joy.

The Calmness of a Movie

For my hubby and me, the calmness of the season comes through most as we sit in our snug, sipping eggnog or hot tea, Christmas tree lights twinkling, watching a holiday movie.  And our absolute favorite Hallmark movie is “The Christmas Card.”  As I watched this year, I viewed the movie in a new light, trying to pay close attention to possible triggers for the childless.  I only found three, and I had to be very critical to discover those.

Throughout the movie, there are only eight elementary-aged kids shown.  They are nearly extras, as they have no lines and are not the focus of the storyline.  There is a parents-daughter relationship, but she is grown (in her late 20s) and trying to find her place in the world.  Finally, they mention a children’s charity lot where Christmas trees are sold.

Honestly, I never even noticed the kids before.  I truly thought there were no littles at all in the movie when I began watching it for the umpteenth time this season.  The parents-daughter relationship never bothered me because they don’t reminisce about childhood and have a healthy, adult relationship.  And the children’s charity lot just seems nice during Christmastime.

So, I feel like “The Christmas Card” is a wonderful movie for the childless.  There’s even a childless uncle who is funny and helpful and loves his niece.  Plus, the cabin they live in is gorgeous, there is tons of snow, and there is even a sleigh!  I really, really want a sleigh someday…

The Calmness of a Sleigh

I want a sleigh because I think it would be absolutely magical to ride around with my love on a cold winter’s night and look at beautiful Christmas lights.  Talk about the calmness of the season…  It makes me smile just thinking about it.

Find the Calmness of the Season

Fabulous one, I encourage you to find the calmness of the season.  Whether that means watching a Christmas movie, looking at Christmas lights, spending hours decorating your tree, or taking a sleigh ride with your sweetie, slow down and enjoy the magic.  Focus on what you have, find joy, spread joy, and simply be this Christmas.

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Sherry December 21, 2017 - 3:25 pm

Enjoy the magic and simply be…….. You continue to inspire me, my daughter. Thank you?

Brandi Lytle December 22, 2017 - 1:56 am

You are more than welcome. Thank you for the sweet words, Mom! 🙂

Raven December 20, 2017 - 11:03 am

This is a beautiful post…my hubby and I are working on finding traditions for us that are calm, peaceful and not dependent on the children we don’t have. It’s made the season so much more enjoyable.

Brandi Lytle December 20, 2017 - 11:32 pm

That is so awesome and inspiring! I am glad that you are finding your joy in the life you have!


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