A Review of “Following Sea,” poetry written by a childless woman

by Brandi Lytle
Photo of a single seashell on the beach on "A Review of Following Sea, poetry by a childless woman," on Not So Mommy..., a childless blog

When Lauren Carter’s publicist contacted me, asking if I would write a review of Following Sea, I quickly agreed.  Lauren is childless not by choice, as well.  And I try to support other childless warriors as they find a new path and try to make a legacy for themselves…

My Review of Following Sea

Not what I was expecting…

When I received Following Sea in the mail, I flipped through the pages and realized that it was a collection of poems.  Honestly, this is not what I was expecting.  Although I am a language person, poetry has never been my favorite form of literature.  As I began to read through Lauren’s collection of poems, however, I was drawn in to the story they were telling…

Poetry with deep emotions…

Following Sea is a collection of 49 total poems, divided into five different sections.  Deep emotions are expressed within the poetry, intensifying throughout the book.  Difficult subjects such as the need for connections with a family tree, concerns of growing old alone, and death are broached.  Because of this, there are possible triggers within the book, with mentions of babies, children, sons, daughters, family, childhood, and miscarriage.  The moving pieces within this collection cause the reader to feel the pain, sadness, anger, and emptiness the infertility and childless not by choice journey evoke.  In fact, the mood was so dark at one point in the reading that it reminded of the time during my own infertility battle that I call “the pit of despair.”

Poetry with shimmers of hope…

But there is more to this story than despair.  There are shimmers of hope, too.  As you continue to read, moving forward on the journey, the poems beautifully demonstrate that healing is possible.

An authentic expression of the CNBC journey…

Photo of a woman looking out a window over the sea, the book cover for Following Sea, featured on "A Review of Following Sea," on Not So Mommy..., a childless blogWhile I am by no means a “lover of poetry,” I truly enjoyed reading Following Sea, a collection of poems by Lauren Carter.  She did an incredible job capturing the emotions, the journey, of infertility and childlessness.  Although there are triggers throughout the book, they are necessary in order to fully capture the grief and sadness that comes with being childless not by choice.  In order to fully expose the reality of this journey, Lauren had to poke at the raw emotions, stirring the negative and evoking the pain.  Without that, without the triggers, there would be no way to authentically tell this story.

So, I encourage you to read Following Sea, a beautiful collection of poetry that expertly navigates the intense emotions encountered as one becomes childless not by choice.

To learn more about Lauren and her childless not by choice story, click here


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Judy Odum March 30, 2019 - 9:44 am

This review was beautifully written.

Brandi Lytle March 31, 2019 - 2:44 pm

Thank you, Judy. 🙂

Charlis March 4, 2019 - 7:50 am

I totally understand what it’s to be infertile. In 2017 I was diagnosed with low ovarian reserve. Although I was diagnosed with this curse I was still hopeful. Later in 2018 I went into menopause. I tried praying, listening to miracle stories and testimonies to have this reversed. Nothing worked so I lost all faith in God. Not saying I don’t believe in God . It’s just the trust is gone . People have invited me to their church and I kindly refuse. I also will never ever go to a baby shower or wedding again.

Brandi Lytle March 4, 2019 - 10:13 am

I am so sorry that you are struggling, Charlis. I hope you find a bit of encouragement here. Hugs…


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