Mr. & Mrs. Claus: A Childless Couple

by Brandi Lytle
Mr. & Mrs. Claus: A Childless Couple - Blog 6 on Childless Holidays Series on Not So Mommy...

I love Santa Claus.  As a child, he visited my Grammy’s Christmas Party every year.  Often, my Daddy would barely miss Santa, having gone to work unexpectedly because the alarm went off.  I was such a believer that it never dawned on me that Santa’s eyes twinkled an awful lot like my Daddy’s.  And the fact that my Mom sometimes wore a Mrs. Claus outfit…  Well, someone had to help Santa give out the presents!

After Dane and I were married, we took over the roles of Mr. & Mrs. Claus at my Grammy’s parties.  It was harder to convince the younger generation that the real Santa was visiting.  But we still loved being able to help the jolly old couple out at their busy time of year.

As I thought about Christmas through the eyes of the childless, it dawned on me that Mr. & Mrs. Claus are an amazing example of a childless couple.  Despite the fact that they do not have any children of their own, the Clauses spread joy and love to the world’s children through their kind spirits and generosity.  In fact, some say that Mr. & Mrs. Claus do indeed have children because all the world’s kids are theirs.  What a perfect example of a childless couple!

This epiphany makes me even happier that we played the role of the Clauses for so many years.  In fact, we were Mr. & Mrs. Claus at our 10 Year Anniversary Celebration, which was seven years into our infertility battle.  I can still picture the kids gathered around to get their gifts from Santa.  And I absolutely love the portion of the video where my uncle high-fives Santa as he leaves the reception hall.  Like the real Mr. & Mrs. Claus, Dane and I are a childless couple, but are definitely not childfree.

So, when you see Santa this year, smile at your fellow childless friend.  As much as Santa loves children, I’m quite certain that he and Mrs. Claus are childless not by choice.  But this childless couple didn’t allow that to ruin the holidays for them.  No, they took matters into their own hands, deciding to give love and spread joy to all!

Santa will be visiting Maddie sometime this season…  Mrs. Claus can’t wait to give him a squeeze under the mistletoe!   (Another bright side of a childless Christmas…)

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Catee November 28, 2021 - 2:28 pm

I do love this and will be sharing it with my infertility and infant loss support group, Hannah’s Wish, here in Indiana. Thank you (as always) for your perspective on being CNBC. You always raise issues that both resonate and reassure. 💜

Brandi Lytle November 29, 2021 - 7:25 pm

Thank you for your kind words of support! I am so honored that you are going to share this post with Hannah’s Wish. What a compliment… HUGS, fellow warrior!

Angela November 10, 2021 - 6:10 pm

This is so cool I never even thought of the fact that mr and Mrs claus had no children. Thanks for sharing and I’m glad to find your blogs always love to follow someone who childless and inspiring 🥰

Brandi Lytle November 11, 2021 - 12:34 pm

I’m so glad you liked this blog, Angela! It is one of my favorites and has resonated with many here at Not So Mommy…

Despite the circumstances that brought you here, I am grateful you are part of this fabulous community. Thank you for your kind words. It is humbling to be called “inspiring.”

Sending you so many hugs, fellow warrior…

Judy Odum December 17, 2017 - 11:35 am

This is a perfect example!!! Also remember when you were playing Santa and Mrs Clause and three year old Chanistie said Hi Uncle Dane, how precious that was.

Brandi Lytle December 17, 2017 - 6:28 pm

Yes! She looked deep in his eyes and just knew… It is one of my fondest memories! 🙂

Sherry December 14, 2017 - 8:10 am

Santa and Mrs. Claus are perfect role models and shining examples of the important love and influence childless but not child free couples have on children. I love your out of the box perspective. It is spot on.❤

Brandi Lytle December 14, 2017 - 6:28 pm

Thank you! I do love to find the bright side!


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