More than childless, I am me.

by Brandi Lytle
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Some people think I’m weak.  They think that deciding to live a childless life, deciding not to have a baby after trying for ten years, deciding to stay with my husband (of 13 years at the time, 17 now) after he said he didn’t want to keep trying to conceive or adopt, deciding to embrace the life that God has given me somehow makes me weak.

I disagree.  I am not weak.  I am stronger than strong.  I am fierce.

The critics of this world are hard to deal with, but my worst critic has been myself.  I have ferociously fought to find myself—to find my way—and I will not apologize for accepting my path.

I am a dog mom and proud of it.  I love Maddie with all my heart, and I take really good care of her.

I am a Tia and proud of it.  I would do anything for my nieces and nephews.  They are my kids.

I am a host mom and proud of it.  My love for Bruna is real and our relationship is true, even if others don’t understand it.

I am a wife and proud of it.  My husband and I have struggled.  We’ve gone through the bad, the worse, the sickness, and the poor, and we’ve come out stronger.  He is a part of me and I am a part of him.  We are a team.  Forever.

I am an infertile woman, and I have accepted that.  I didn’t choose it, and I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone.  But it is who I am.  God dealt me this hand, and He doesn’t make mistakes.

I am me, and I am proud of it.

Never apologize for being yourself.  You must live in your skin.  You know your heart.  And only you can decide what defines you.

So, don’t listen to the critics—even if it’s yourself.  Be fierce.  Be you.


Are you struggling with critics, with people who just can’t seem to stop judging you?  I did, too.  Until I decided to get rid of the toxic people in my life…
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1 comment

Sherry May 16, 2018 - 4:23 pm

God knew all along.


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