On Living MY Best Life: The Thoughts of a (Childless) Woman…

by Brandi Lytle
Photo of Brandi Lytle, Founder of Not So Mommy... & Creator of the Childless Not By Choice Awareness Ribbon

I’ve been pretty quiet here at Not So Mommy… for the past few weeks.  I skipped writing a couple of blogs.  And I haven’t posted on social media for days.  This is the first time I’ve ever stepped away without giving a reason.  So, what pulled me away?  Well, my last two blog posts were about living your best life.  Which got me to thinking about living my best life…

Notice I did not say living my best childless life.  Yes, I am a childless woman.  I always will be.  But as I redefine childless, I’m realizing that I do not want my focus to remain on the fact that I’m childless.  I do not want to strive to live my best childless life.  I want to strive to live my best life.  Period.

And I want to live that life not as a childless woman, but simply as a woman.  As me—imperfectly perfect Brandi.

So, what has living my best life looked like over the past weeks?

On Living MY Best Life . . .

Well, I’ve been focusing on me and my non-traditional family and our little cabin in the woods.

I’ve been deep cleaning our home, using my new Norwex products that I am absolutely in love with!  (Seriously!  I adore a clean house.  But I’ve never actually liked cleaning… Until now!)

Dane and I loved our time in Key West so much that we decided to take another beach vacay in October.  To an all-inclusive, adults-only resort!  YAY!  So, I’ve been shopping for cover-ups and bikinis.  And making sure our passports are up-to-date.  And researching the tourist card that we need.  We are so stinkin’ excited that we have a countdown on the calendar…  In 89 days, we’ll be on the beach!

I’ve also taken the time to get a really great pedicure.  While I normally choose pink or dark red or purple polish…  ThisFeet selfie with blue toenail polish on Not So Mommy..., an infertility & childless blog time, I chose blue!  For the first time ever!  I picked blue because it reminds me of the ocean.  Every time I look at my toes, I think about the phenomenal time we had in Key West.  And I look forward to the adventures we will have in Mexico…

My best life includes Not So Mommy…

Now, not to fret!  Not So Mommy… isn’t going anywhere.  I enjoy being a part of this community.  I enjoy fulfilling the Not So Mommy… purpose—support, educate, advocate.  But as I continue to figure out what living my best life looks like, there are likely to be times that I go quiet.  Times when I don’t publish a blog and/or stay off social media for several days.  (I know one of those times will be in October.  During that vacay, Dane and I have already made a commitment to completely unplug!)

Some Final Thoughts…

I supposes I share all this to let you know that I’m okay.  I’m not having a grief attack.  Heck, I’m not even having a wobble.  I’m just living life…  Determined to live my best life!

And though I feel a bit selfish for putting my needs (and wants) first, I’ve repeatedly said that it’s okay to make self-care a priority.  So, I’m taking my own advice.

Thanks for following along on my journey, fabulous one.  I hope you are discovering how to live your best life, too!

Hugs, fellow warrior.  So many HUGS…

If anything I wrote resonates with you, fabulous one, please tell us about it in the comments.
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Tammy Datzman July 15, 2022 - 1:48 pm

Thanks so much for your open heart and words that have touched my heart. Learning to live, really live my best life in amazing ways without my own kids has been a struggle off and on. Thanks for sharing your journey. It really has encouraged me. Enjoy your beach trip💜💜

Brandi Lytle July 18, 2022 - 11:41 am

Thank you for taking the time to comment, Tammy! Your sweet words are quite validating. I understand the struggle… We just have to keep encouraging fellow childless warriors to “really live.” HUGS!

Sherry July 11, 2022 - 2:15 pm

You have come full circle. I am ridiculously proud!💪❤💚💜💪


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