Not So Alone: A Global Childless Community

by Brandi Lytle
Photo of a woman holding a silver, glittery ball on "Not So Alone: A Global Childless Community" on Not So Mommy..., a childless blog

While going through our ten-year infertility battle, I felt very alone.  As we started accepting our childless not by choice life, I wondered if there was anyone else out there like me…

Feeling Alone…

This isolation, this feeling of not belonging…  Well, I’m not the only CNBC person who has struggled through the loneliness.  In fact, it’s one of the reasons I started Not So Mommy…  I wanted to make sure that no one ever felt alone on this journey…

A Global Childless Community

What I did not expect when starting this blog, however, was to meet a global childless community.  Yes, there is a vibrant childless not by choice community out there, ready to support, encourage, love, and empathize…  There is a beautiful childless community who “gets it” and is more than willing to help you through the wobbles and celebrate the bright sides of this Plan B life…  A childless community with CNBC at different stages of acceptance, desiring to help those in the pit of despair to climb their way out, helping each other look at things with a different perspective, embracing redefining…

I know this because I have seen it here at Not So Mommy…  Many of you write and give me thanks for supporting you…  Well, I say, “THANK YOU” a million times over for your support of me!

And where in the world is our global childless community located?  Well, in January, I asked, “Where in the world are you?”  And many Not So Mommy… Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter followers answered!  I was humbled to learn that the Not So Mommy… community is made up of fabulous ones in fifteen different countries!  And within the United States, Not So Mommy… has followers from twenty-four different states!  Wow!  Talk about a global childless community!

You might be wondering which specific countries and states the Not So Mommy… community is located in…  Well, keep on reading to find out!

Where in the world are you?

I posted this question on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter on 20 January 2019.  The response was phenomenal!

Fabulous Ones in 15 Countries!
  • Australia
  • Canada
  • England
  • France
  • Germany
  • Indonesia
  • Ireland
  • New Zealand
  • Panama
  • Philippines
  • Scotland
  • Slovakia
  • South Africa
  • United States
  • Zambia
Fabulous Ones in 24 States!
  • Alabama
  • Arizona
  • California
  • Connecticut
  • Florida
  • Georgia
  • Illinois
  • Indiana
  • Kentucky
  • Minnesota
  • Missouri
  • Nevada
  • New Hampshire
  • New Jersey
  • New York
  • North Carolina
  • North Dakota
  • Ohio
  • Oklahoma
  • Oregon
  • South Carolina
  • Tennessee
  • Texas
  • Wisconsin

Not So Alone…

So, when I start feeling misunderstood, as if no one gets my journey, I remember the incredible childless community here at Not So Mommy…  An incredible, global childless community!  And despite the circumstances that brought each of you here, I truly am grateful that you are a part of this wonderful group!  A group that is more than childless!


Don’t see your country or state listed?  Please, write a comment, telling me where you are located so that I can add it to the list!  (Remember!  You can post using your real name, a pseudonym, or anonymously, if you prefer.) 

If anything I wrote resonates with you, fabulous one, please tell us about that in the comments, too!

Join the community to receive email updates with links to blogs, inspirational quotes, and news about what’s happening within our global childless community. . .

Feeling alone?  Please, contact me if you ever need a listening ear…


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Jeanette August 15, 2020 - 9:38 am

Thank You Brandi! The loneliness and psychological isolation in my present circumstance has been so very painful! I know there are others out in the world, but it really helps to see it in print! I am also in Michigan

Brandi Lytle August 17, 2020 - 8:56 am

I am so grateful that this post helped you feel less alone. When the isolation feels overwhelming, I try to remember that there are beautiful childless women (like you!) throughout the world who understand the grief… Sending you HUGS!

M April 30, 2019 - 2:54 pm

You can add Michigan.

Brandi Lytle April 30, 2019 - 2:58 pm

Lovely! Thank you for letting me know. 🙂

Jes April 23, 2019 - 4:45 pm


Brandi Lytle April 24, 2019 - 10:59 am

Thank you for letting me know that I can add another country to the list! Despite the circumstances, I am very grateful that you are here. Hugs…

Sherry April 22, 2019 - 2:04 pm

A tiny ripple becomes a wave………. and that is FABULOUS!!

Brandi Lytle April 22, 2019 - 2:31 pm

I agree! Our reach is pretty phenomenal! 🙂

Kim April 22, 2019 - 2:02 pm

I miss the Netherlands…


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