Childless Holidays: Finding & Spreading Hope – Series Intro

by Brandi Lytle
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November has arrived, which means the holiday season is quickly getting into full swing.  For some, this brings much excitement and anticipation, eagerly awaiting the festivities that occur during the upcoming weeks.  For others, however, the holidays are not the most wonderful time of year, but instead trigger sadness and a longing for them to just be over.  Unfortunately, the latter is the case for many childless not by choice.

2017 Childless Holidays: Finding Joy

Because I want fellow childless to do more than simply survive the holidays, I wrote a Childless Holiday Series last year which focused on finding joy in the season, looking at traditional holiday customs with a different perspective.  There were ten blogs in last year’s series.  You can find links to them in the 2017 Childless Holidays Series Round-up.

What would I write about this year?

I was quite proud of the blogs I wrote during November and December last year.  When January came around, I wondered what I would write about the following holiday season.  And that’s when the word “hope” popped into my mind.

2018 Childless Holidays: Finding & Spreading Hope

Now, I realize that hope is often a four-letter word to we childless not by choice.  As we try to accept that we will never have children of our own, hope can become our enemy.  In fact, I wrote about that during the “Not So Helpful” Series.  You can read that post here.

So, if this word can be triggering for our CNBC community, why did I choose it so many months ago to talk about during what have the potential to be the hardest months of the year for we childless?  Well, I think I chose hope because of my best friend.  You see, at the beginning of this year, I hoped that she would get better.  I hoped that this Christmas, we would be taking photos and planning a celebration trip since she was cancer-free.  But God had different plans…

So, let’s redefine…

Despite the fact that my hopes did not become reality, I decided to stick to my original blogging plan.  Why?  Well, because I need some hope this season.  And because, as is typical here at Not So Mommy…, I want to look at things with a different perspective.  I want to redefine hope.

Some say that HOPE stands for “Hold On, Pain Ends.”  But I want more than that.  For me and for you.  I don’t simply want the pain to end.  There has to be more to this life than that!

So, won’t you come along on this series with me and discover what I believe HOPE can truly mean?  Yes, let’s find hope and spread hope this holiday season…


Fabulous one, if anything I wrote resonates with you, I’d love to hear about it in the comments.

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