Does a blog about childless holidays even require a written trigger warning? I mean, you might be triggered already simply because it’s November. Be gentle with yourself, fabulous one. And don’t read anything over the next couple months if you don’t feel strong enough. Hugs…
Well, it’s 2nd November. That means, the holiday season is officially in full swing. Merry music is already playing on the radio. And memes about a Covid Christmas are sure to start popping up on social media. As for childless holidays during the pandemic of 2020… They will no doubt come with the usual triggers, as well as some new ones.
Past Series…
Every year, I write a childless holidays series to try and help our CNBC tribe navigate what can be a very difficult time of year.
Finding Joy in 2017…
In 2017, the series focused on finding joy in childless holidays by looking at things with a different perspective, by redefining traditions… (You can find links to all the blogs in the 2017 Childless Holiday Series here.)
Finding Hope in 2018…
In 2018, I redefined that four-letter word—HOPE. In this series, HOPE became an acronym whose aim is to build community. (Find links to all the blogs in the 2018 HOPE Series here.)
Finding Peace in 2019…
Last year, in 2019, we looked at PEACE as an acronym. Not only did I encourage you to find peace with childless holidays, but peace with your childless journey… (Links to all the blogs in the 2019 PEACE Series can be found here.)
Childless Holidays during the Pandemic of 2020…
And this year… Childless holidays during the pandemic of 2020… What are we going to look at? How are we going to find joy? How are we going to redefine?
Dispelling myths…
Possible Triggers…
Last December, during a conversation about Christmas and presents and what it all means, the following words were spoken…
“Christmas is for kids.”
UGH! GRRRRR! NOOOOOOO!!!
Talk about needing to take my own advice about finding peace…
Those four little words made me take stock of my emotional acceptance. They made me dig deep to find the courage to embrace what is…
Because if Christmas is for kids, then where does that leave we childless?
Well, in my humble opinion, “Christmas is for kids” is a big, fat LIE! I mean, as a Christian, I certainly do NOT believe that celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ is for kids only. Even looking at the holidays from a secular point of view, are kids the only ones who can enjoy trees and lights and opening gifts?
And how completely sad for kids to think that they better enjoy the holidays while they are young because once you grow up… Well, Christmas is only for kids.
Uh… NO!
Finding Truth in 2020…
So, this year for the Childless Holidays Series… For childless holidays during the pandemic of 2020…
Well, I want we childless to embrace the truth that Christmas is for EVERYONE. And that means that Christmas will look different depending on whose celebrating…
Now, different does not mean bad or worse or sad or weird. It doesn’t mean one’s holidays are better and another’s are to be pitied.
Different just means that we each have the opportunity to create a holiday season that fits our unique journey…
Different means ALL celebrations can be fun—whether those celebrations include two-legged kids or not.
Normally, I have the Childless Holidays Series all mapped out by November. But this year… During the pandemic of 2020… Well, I know I’m going to focus on how to enjoy a FABULOUS Childless Christmas… I know I’m going to focus on FUN. But I don’t know exactly what I’m going to write about just yet…
I do know that during the pandemic of 2020… During a Covid Christmas… Well, now more than ever, we need to make the holidays our own!
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My husband and I have been told over and over during the holidays from family members that a miracle will happen for us…. or “I hope that’s not wine I’m your cup and you’re finally pregnant!”…
That was a few years ago when we were in our darkest of days and struggling with depression and medical bills all to be told by 5 different RE’s that we would have less than 5% chance of pregnancy with IVF.
After that Christmas we decided to make the holidays about us and our strength as a couple and we packed up and went on a Christmas vacation together. Our families were appalled that we would not be joining them for the holidays, but it was the best thing we ever did and now we’ve turned it into our little tradition. ❤️
Amber, I am so sorry that such ignorant comments were said to you and your husband. I am grateful that you took the holidays back and made them your own, having FUN! Taking care of our mental and emotional health is so important. THANK YOU for sharing your perspective and your heart with us! HUGS…