Childless Holiday Card Exchange 2021

by Brandi Lytle
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Can you believe it is October 2021 and another holiday season is about to hit full force?!  I know for many childless, the last quarter of the year can be difficult, as it’s full of possible triggers and potential wobbles.  And a big potential trigger is the photo holiday card.  Because for we childless, receiving cards filled with photos of two-legged kids…  Well, this can cause from a small wobble to a full-blown grief attack.  Wouldn’t it be great if there was a childless holiday card exchange to fill your walls with of a community of women like you?

A collaboration with a fellow childless warrior…

Well, near the beginning of 2021, Missy Desiree, a fellow childless warrior, contacted me and asked if I’d like to collaborate on just that–a Childless Holiday Card Exchange.  And I messaged back immediately with a big ol’ YES!  In September, I contacted her again, asking about her plan for the holiday card exchange.  Ultimately, we decided I’d take the reins with planning, details, and organizing information.  And Missy would stand alongside—proofreading, giving feedback, being an admin, & promoting…

The Childless Holiday Card Exchange 2021

So, what exactly is the Childless Holiday Card Exchange and how do you participate?!  Well, read on…

What is it?

The Childless Holiday Card Exchange is exactly what the name says.  We childless women will mail holiday cards to each other!  One big rule, though.  No two-legged kid talk.  No trying to conceive or trying to adopt talk.  Not even talk about nieces, nephews, or foreign exchange kids.  Seriously.  NO two-legged kid talk!

Now, talk and photos of fur babies will be allowed.  (Though there is a question on the SurveyMonkey questionnaire that asks if you want to receive cards with photos of pet babies.)  There’s also a question that asks if it’s okay for childless couples to send you cards (which might include their photo).  And we even included a question asking if it’s okay to send you Christian cards.  So, we’re really trying to keep this as trigger-free as possible.

Who can participate?

Now, Missy & I cannot take responsibility for the types of cards you receive.  If you decide to participate in the holiday card exchange, you take full responsibility for your choices, actions, and results.  Though I am going to do my best (with Missy’s help) to vet those wanting to participate in the card exchange.

How are we going to do that?

Well, I set up a closed Facebook group called “Childless Holiday Card Exchange.”  Those who wish to join the group must answer three questions and agree to the group rules.  Only those accepted will have access to the questionnaire Missy & I are using to gather the needed information for the actual card exchange.

I’m excited (and if I’m 100% honest, a bit nervous) about our card exchange.  I truly hope it goes fabulously!  But that’s not really up to me or Missy…  YOU are the ones who will make this great, fabulous ones!

Are you interested in learning more and joining the Childless Holiday Card Exchange closed Facebook group? 

*Unfortunately, the deadline to join was October 25th.  If all goes well, we will host another one next year in 2022…

Want to learn more about Missy, the childless warrior helping me with the Childless Holiday Card Exchange? 

Read Missy’s CNBC Story here and her Finding Joy Despite… Story here.

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Nicci Fletcher October 9, 2021 - 7:05 pm

I really love this idea Brandi. Many years ago I took part in something similar and it was wonderful receiving “proper” post that wasn’t a Bill! It was also great to get cards from people across the world. Sadly I can’t take part as there is no formal postal service here in Mexico. Everything is either delivered by hand, by courier or done on-line. I wish you and Missy every success with the Holiday Card Exchange. I hope that loads of people sign up and experience the happiness that an unexpected card brings!

Brandi Lytle October 11, 2021 - 10:23 am

It’s a bummer that you can’t participate, Nicci! Though I know that you do LOVE your new canbace life in Mexico. 🙂 Thank you for your support of Missy & my venture, nonetheless. HUGS, my friend…

Mali October 6, 2021 - 7:59 pm

I really like this idea, but this week it was reported that the US Postal Service has stopped deliveries to NZ (and presumably from?)!!! So I doubt I could participate. I’ll watch this space. And happy to promote it on my blog too.

Brandi Lytle October 7, 2021 - 11:53 am

I had not heard about the US stopping deliveries to New Zealand, Mali! That’s a bummer! I appreciate your support of this venture and thank you for promoting it on your blog. Hopefully, they’ll start delivery to NZ again soon!


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