Childless and Worthy

by Brandi Lytle
Photo of a woman standing in the sunshine with her hands raised above her head on Childless and Worthy on Not So Mommy..., a childless blog

I am childless, and I am worthy.  Yes.  Childless and worthy.

I was not always able to say this, though…

Am I worthy?

In fact, during World Childless Week’s first “We are worthy” day (in September 2017), I couldn’t figure out what to write until the morning of the event.  Even then, I could only ask, “Am I worthy?”  You can read that blog here.

We are worthy of compliments…

As the months passed, my feelings of worthiness grew.  By March 2018, I was more confident, no longer asking questions, but believing that we childless are worthy.  With this new-found confidence, I wrote the blog, “You are worthy of compliments.”  You can read it here.

The “We Are Worthy” Summit…

In April 2018, I joined about 40 childless warriors and spoke at the first ever “We Are Worthy” Summit, created by Nicci Fletcher (co-founder of The Childless Not By Choice Magazine and creator of CANBACE).  You can read all about the summit here.

I am childless and worthy.

And now, the second World Childless Week “We are worthy” day is upon us.  This year, I didn’t have to wait until the day of the event to find inspiration.  In fact, I actually wrote this blog at the beginning of August, a full five weeks before the event.  Because this year, I know two things…

One, I am a wife, dog mom, aunt, host mom.  I am a childless not by choice woman who has embraced infertility, is accepting the what is, and has redefined momhood for myself…

And two, I am worthy to be all of this, do all of this, and more!

Because I am childless and worthy!

Thank you, Stephanie…

I want to thank Stephanie Joy Phillips, founder of World Childless Week, for bringing the topic of worthiness to mind last year.  Before really thinking about my feelings of worthiness, I did not realize that I still harbored doubts and insecurities.  While these feelings still linger, they no longer control me.

I no longer question my worthiness.  I no longer cower in the background, afraid of what others might think if I proclaim, “I am worthy!”

Because being childless does not make me less.  Quite the opposite, in fact.  Being childless has made me more…

I am more…

I am worthy.  I have accepted my path.  And I am moving forward…  I am more than childless.  I am Creating A New, Beautiful And Courageous Existence…

Fabulous one, come back tomorrow to read all about CANBACE (created by Nicci Fletcher), the new olive green Childless Not By Choice Awareness Ribbon (created by yours truly), and the first ever CANBACE  Awareness Day scheduled for next Spring 2019…


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Click the image below to read Nicci Fletcher’s post, “Struggling with self-worth”
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LeeAnn September 19, 2020 - 3:05 pm

Aww thank you soo much for your blogs and courage. I resonate with you and often feel that you have written my feelings. I am still struggling to believe that I worthy but am equally praying that God will strengthen me and help me with this 🙏 x

Brandi Lytle September 21, 2020 - 11:25 am

Prayers & Hugs back…

Sherry Stout September 15, 2018 - 11:02 am

You are more!?

Nicci Fletcher September 15, 2018 - 7:24 am

It is lovely to see how much you have blossomed over the last year Brandi. When we first met after the end of WCW 2017 I KNEW you were worthy and it’s wonderful to see that you have come to realise that for yourself. Thank you for mentioning Canbace again: you are a star. I hope my blog doesn’t disappoint tomorrow because it has changed from writing about Canbace to sharing five more ways to build self-worth. By moving forwards with Canbace is happening on Monday now. Apologies from any inconvenience and/or confusion x

Brandi Lytle September 15, 2018 - 1:15 pm

Absolutely no apologies needed, Nicci! Sometimes, as we well know, plans must change and adjust so as to better fit our needs at the moment. I have no doubt that tomorrow’s blog will be amazing and look forward to continuing to spread the word about canbace. It truly is powerful!


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