Celebrating Three Years of Blogging and Beyond…

by Brandi Lytle
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Back in 2017, before I published anything on Not So Mommy…, I spent several months researching blogging.  (I was a teacher, after all.)  Though I don’t remember everything I learned, I do remember one source in particular.  It cautioned against writing a personal blog about your life.  It said, in essence, that no one is that interesting—that others would not care to read about you.

Well, I started my blog anyway.

On 11 August 2017, I launched Not So Mommy…  I didn’t know much, but I knew three things for sure.

  1. For at least one year, I was committed to putting 110% effort into blogging & sharing via social media.
  2. I needed to share because I needed to help someone—even if it was just one.
  3. My mom would read my blog, even if no one else did!

Three years later, I am humbly honored that you find my journey engaging enough to read.  And astounded at how large the Not So Mommy… community is…

But honestly, I think Not So Mommy… has resonated because this isn’t just my journey.

In July, while doing updates to the blogsite, Not So Mommy… encountered a “fatal error.”  Everything vanished.  I didn’t panic.  I waited for my hubby to get home and asked him to take a look, as he is much better at technology than I am.  Two hours later, he said he thought we were going to have to rebuild the entire site.  My mind went into overdrive thinking about what that would entail.  While I could reload the 275+ blogs, hundreds of images, 30+ pages, and 70+ resources, there was something I could not replace.  Over a thousand comments made by fabulous community members could not be recreated.  And this was heart-breaking.

Luckily, my tenacious husband figured out that my site backs-up automatically.  So, he was able to restore everything (including comments).  And I breathed a huge sigh of relief!

Fabulous ones, Not So Mommy… does not work without you.  So, as I’ve reflected on these past three years of blogging, I’ve thought a lot about our amazing community…

Though I’m normally “good with words,” it is difficult for me to adequately express the validation, healing, and sense of worth that you, fabulous ones, have given me.  When I started Not So Mommy…, I thought that I had accepted, that I had healed.  But there was more grief work to be done, more changing perspective, accepting, embracing, and redefining to accomplish…

Just like when I started Not So Mommy…, I don’t know much, but I do know these three things for sure…  (And that’s saying a lot since it’s 2020! Ha!)

  1. I am committed to putting forth 110% effort into blogging & more, sharing via social media & beyond…
  2. I must continue to share, as I feel strongly that I need to be a voice for our infertility & childless not by choice communities—supporting, educating, and advocating.
  3. You, fabulous ones, will continue to walk this journey with me. Even when you are silent, I know you are there.  And I am honored that you choose to be a part of the incredible Not So Mommy… community.
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Sandra Beaty August 29, 2020 - 2:21 pm

You Brandi Fabulous one , Happy Anniversary it’s 3 years already WOW! Thank you for being a voice for this every growing important community. You inspire, share, educate and love and I am eternally grateful for putting words to this childless not by choice evolution! ❤️😇🦋

Brandi Lytle August 31, 2020 - 8:09 am

Thank you for your kind words, Sandra! I am so grateful for fabulous ones, like you, who read, follow along, comment, & are part of this wonderful CNBC community! Hugs!

Sherry August 10, 2020 - 3:51 pm

Your blogging journey has been phenomenal and I feel so honored to be a member of your Not So Mommy…community. Here’s to many more years of advocating and supporting!!

Brandi Lytle August 11, 2020 - 11:31 am

THANK YOU for your unwavering support from day one! So many hugs… 🙂


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