Beyond the Blog: Plan B – Redefine…

by Brandi Lytle
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Not to be unhumble, but I am so proud to have published over 300 blogs here at Not So Mommy…  That being said, this site is so much more than just a blog.  Because of that, I began the “Beyond the Blog” Series in 2020.  In the first post of this series, I wrote about the 85+ resources linked here.  Next, I introduced the person (me), site, social media, and community that makes-up Not So Mommy…  Then, I told you about Shop The Ribbon and The Not So Mommy Shop, both of which contain products especially for our childless tribe.  Since we are in the first quarter of a new year, I decided the first “Beyond the Blog” post of 2021 should discuss Plan B Redefine.  Because my Plan B centers around this key concept—redefine…

The Beginning of My Blog…

When I began my blog back in August 2017, I knew that I wanted to help others struggling with infertility and childlessness to find their joy again.  I had climbed (or maybe I was climbing) from the pit of despair.  And I was learning how to enjoy my childless life.  Because I felt so alone on my journey, however, I wanted to make sure others didn’t suffer this isolation.  But trying to figure out how to explain my Plan B…  Well, it was quite complicated.

Various Aspects of Plan B . . .

Initially, I listed six different categories under “Plan B: Redefine.”  You see, I was redefining in various ways.  So, I created Aunt, Dog Mom, Fashionista, Host Mom, Uniquely Me, and Wife & Home sections for the blog.  Plus, I created static pages on which I talked about these various roles.  This way, I figured fabulous ones could read what appealed to them most…

Redefining CNBC . . .

Somewhere along the way, I redefined what CNBC means to me.  Though this acronym stands for childless not by choice, I assert it also stands for Creating a New plan Bravely & Courageously.  I wrote an entire page about this, which you can read here.

Discovering Childless Celebrations . . .

After a couple of years of blogging, I realized that I wasn’t the only one who struggled, especially around holidays.  I wasn’t the only one who desired special celebrations so that I didn’t feel left out.  So, I did some research and found what I call “childless celebrations” for every month of the year.  And I added these under the “Plan B: Redefine” tab.  (Check out Childless Celebrations here.)

A HUGE Theme . . .

Yes, “Plan B: Redefine” is a HUGE theme here at Not So Mommy…  In fact, if you search “redefine” at Not So Mommy…, you’ll find eight pages of blogs from the archives…

And over at Instagram, I always use #RedefiningMomhood for every, single post.

Plan B: Redefine . . .

Plan B is a winding journey.  It’s a journey that I am quite certain I will be on for the rest of my life.

But unlike my infertility journey, I no longer feel that I am in the pit of despair, that I am in a battle.

In this journey, this childless journey, this Plan B journey, this redefine journey…  In this journey, I accept, I wobble, I embrace, I find joy despite…

I hope you find your Plan B, fabulous one.  Sending you so many hugs…

 

In the next post of the “Beyond the Blog” Series, we’ll talk about the olive green Childless Not By Choice Awareness Ribbon.

If anything I wrote resonates with you, fabulous one, tell us about it in the comments.

If you need a listening ear, please contact me.  I don’t ever want anyone to feel alone on this journey.

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