What does it mean to be “Not So Mommy…?” Well, for me, it always starts like this…
Do you have kids?
It seems like such a simple question. An easy conversation starter.
But for me, it is loaded.
The simple answer—no.
I do not have kids in the traditional sense. I have never been pregnant and I have not adopted. But, I do have kids. But if I say “yes,” I feel like I’m lying. Because it’s complicated.
I’m a Mom. But not in the traditional way. I’m a dog mom (which I recently discovered is a controversial term, which is weird to me). I’m a host mom. I’m also a Tia to my nieces & nephews and a Profe to my former students. I’m a wife and a woman, a daughter and a friend. I’m complicated. And I hate the feelings I feel when asked, “Do you have kids?” Like I’m a fraud or a liar or not a “real mom.”
My path has been different. My journey, my own. But it doesn’t make it any less real even though it has been far from traditional…..
I am Not So Mommy… And I want to talk about that.